Between superior and nothing, I exist.
Humility is about seeking a level playing field between all people. In displaying this trait, one does not seek to degrade or puff up oneself or others. Mashiach Yeshua says, “The greatest among you shall be to you as a servant. Everyone who lifts himself up will be brought low, but everyone who lowers himself will be lifted up.” (Matthew 23 : 11-12, DHE). Humility out of balance can appear two ways. One extreme displays haughtiness, while the other extreme displays groveling and self-deprecation. The obvious middle is where humility shines.
In a conversation, focus intently on what the other person is saying and not on what you will say next.
Practice active listening and talk less.
Prefer someone’s needs over yours.
When someone says something that does not agree with your opinion, considering holding your tongue and letting it go.
Meditation
Daily Questions
The Hebrew word for humility is anavah. Anavah denotes balance; a moderate, accurate understanding of ourselves. When we have conceit, we fill a room with our enormous presence when we enter. There is no room for anyone else, there is no space for anyone to flourish.
What were the "seeds" that started to erode your humility today?
Think of how you responded to praise, or how you responded to someone else receiving praise. Did you become puffed up when you were complimented? Did you feel jealous or resent someone else receiving good words?
Did you take the time to truly listen to those around you today, or were you more focused on speaking? Were you able to say words to lift up those around you?
In the course of your day, did you make an effort to wholeheartedly look at your shortcomings today rather than focus on those of others?
Were you able to use prayer or meditation to balance out your humility?
When you are around others, do you often feel superior?
Are you realistic in your analysis of who you truly are?
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One single, extra small letter in the traditional text of Vayikra (Lev. 1:1-5:26) teaches us a big lesson in humility. In fact, it’s a letter in the first word of the parasha, the word “vayikra” itself, which is written in the Torah scroll with a final aleph that is smaller than the rest of the letters.
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In recent weeks, I’ve participated in internet discussions where people have accused me of not being humble. I never claimed to be the most humble guy in the world, but they said I was arrogant.
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One single, extra small letter in the traditional text of Vayikra (Lev. 1:1-5:26) teaches us a big lesson in humility. In fact, it’s a letter in the first word of the parasha, the word “vayikra” itself, which is written in the Torah scroll with a final aleph that is smaller than the rest of the letters.
Joseph’s story turns on three pairs of dreams. In the first pair, Joseph sees himself symbolically as dominant over his brothers, and he foolishly tells them about it.
People uphold humility like its the most laudable of virtues. I think its overrated. I’ve seen people feign humility to the point that it’s sickening.
Accepting compliments can be very hard for some people. For some, the non-acceptance is considered related to the humility they hope to demonstrate.
There is a well-known anecdote about a young tourist visiting the home of Ludwig Van Beethoven; it seems the pretentious young woman, upon seeing Beethoven's piano, sat down and played one of the great composer's pieces.
As the presidential race heats up, I’m struck—and troubled—by how invested in one candidate or party many believers seem to be. It’s good to be involved in the political process, but the passion with which some believers demonize the opposition and line up with one party line or another suggests that they really believe the political system holds the key to life’s toughest problems.
I remember one Shabbat morning being in a particularly bad mood. I may have not had a reason to be (I don’t exactly remember that part of it) but I was determined to let everyone around me know how unhappy I was.
Humility can display itself in many forms. It can be the simple deference we show to someone else, or the more rigorous steps we take not to cause offense or be callous to someone's feelings and reputation.
When the wise scribe asked Yeshua, “Which commandment is the first of all?” Yeshua answered with the opening lines of the Shema. And indeed, the very first word, shema, is in the imperative form in Hebrew—it’s a commandment.
I know what you are thinking. I now get my wisdom off of tea bag tags. Next it’s fortune cookies for me. Well, the answer is no.
More than any other extremity on the human body feet get hit the hardest. Feet hold up a significant portion of our body’s weight, they sustain the greatest impact for the longest time, and without protection and regular showers they get rough and smelly.
In recent weeks, I’ve participated in internet discussions where people have accused me of not being humble. I never claimed to be the most humble guy in the world, but they said I was arrogant.
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Golda Meir once said, "Don’t be so humble; you’re not that great." Humility is a quality we love to see in others, and we try to feign in ourselves, but I'm not sure what passes as humility is actually humility.
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While it is difficult, if not impossible at times, to affect change all on one's own for our fellow's hardships, we can be emissaries of humility in cases where people have been humbled.
When I was still in high school, I started smoking a pipe. It was messy and inconvenient, especially since I had to hide all the paraphernalia from my mother and her keen sense of smell.
Quotables
For who in the skies can be compared to G-d? Who is like G-d among the heavenly beings? -- Tehillim 89:7
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. -- Mishlei 11:2
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. -- Mishlei 16:18
Be lowly in spirit before everyone. -- Avos 4:10
Wherever you find God's greatness, there you will find His humility -- b. Megilla 31a
The greatest among you shall be to you as a servant. Everyone who lifts himself up will be brought low, but everyone who lowers himself will be lifted up. -- Matthew 23:11-12, DHE
A true genius admits that he/she knows nothing. -- Albert Einstein
True humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less. -- Timothy Keller
Be careful not to mistake insecurity and inadequacy for humility! Humility has nothing to do with the insecure and inadequate! Just like arrogance has nothing to do with greatness! -- C. Joybell C.
Pride must die in you, or nothing of heaven can live in you. -- Andrew Murray
The humble person is open to being corrected, whereas the arrogant is clearly closed to it. Proud people are supremely confident in their own opinions and insights. Filled as they are with their own views, the arrogant lack the capacity to see another view. -- Thomas Dubay
It stands to reason that anyone who learns to live well will die well. The skills are the same: being present in the moment, and humble, and brave, and keeping a sense of humor. -- Victoria Moran
Humility is that freedom from our self which enables us to be in positions in which we have neither recognition nor importance, neither power nor visibility, and even experience deprivation..and knowing that we are not in the center of the universe, not even in the center of our own private universe. -- David F. Wells

I know what you are thinking. I now get my wisdom off of tea bag tags. Next it’s fortune cookies for me. Well, the answer is no.